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How Technology Impacts Your Relationship with Your Child
13 May 2015

How Technology Impacts Your Relationship with Your Child

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids, Podcast | 0

What would you do if you lost your smartphone? Scary thought isn’t it? Up until a few years ago, the word “iPhone” was a tiny part of our language. And the word itself certainly was not part of anything to … Continued

Sibling Rivalry: 19 things to do with the arrival of child #2
26 Apr 2015

Sibling Rivalry: 19 things to do with the arrival of child #2

by judy | posted in: About Your Kids | 1

“That baby is still here.” My 2 ¾ year old son announced this fact to his aunt Marcia, who had come to help us after my daughter’s birth. He could not quite fathom why “that new baby” was still in … Continued

A parent’s guide to Climate Change and your child’s future
19 Apr 2015

A parent’s guide to Climate Change and your child’s future

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids, About Your World | 0

What I’m about to tell you isn’t good news. Climate change is real. When I look 20 or 30 years down the road, I see that the planet is headed for environmental disaster if things don’t shift. There are some … Continued

Kids in public: Good news about bad behaviour
12 Apr 2015

Kids in public: Good news about bad behaviour

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

The theatre was packed. There were hyped up kids everywhere. Nearly 300 little “Royals” were on hand to attend the Prince and Princess Dress Up Party at the Civic Theatre. (our wonderful community owned movie theatre created the event around … Continued

The truth about your preschooler’s lies
29 Mar 2015

The truth about your preschooler’s lies

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

“Who took all of my jewelry out of the box?… and who stole my necklace!?” Your 3 ½ year old looks up at you and straight out says… “I don’t know.” Your jewelry is scattered all over your bedroom. Your … Continued

Tiaras and tutus: What to do if your kid wants to dress up like a princess
22 Mar 2015

Tiaras and tutus: What to do if your kid wants to dress up like a princess

by judy | posted in: About Your Kids | 0

True or false. Dressing up like a princess turns you into a passive, weak, objectified, underpaid person. I think the answer is false. As a mom, I was always reinforcing to my daughter and son that women are strong and … Continued

Parental Judgement: are you guilty?
15 Mar 2015

Parental Judgement: are you guilty?

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

“NOOO!” He let out a huge loud, full bodied howl of objection. There was no way he was leaving the store when he was in the middle of such a great experience… The other day a regular customer was getting … Continued

Daylight Savings Time: more light, more outdoor fun, and more crankiness
8 Mar 2015

Daylight Savings Time: more light, more outdoor fun, and more crankiness

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

You wouldn’t think that one hour would make that much difference, but it does. I promised myself that this year I’d be prepared for Daylight Savings Time. I’d go to bed a little earlier every day for the week before. … Continued

Childbirth PTSD: identifying the causes and symptoms of birth trauma
1 Mar 2015

Childbirth PTSD: identifying the causes and symptoms of birth trauma

by judy | posted in: About You | 0

“How was your birth?” You were probably asked about it often after your baby was born. You probably think about it often. I’m sure you remember -vividly – every birth you have had. I have found that most women, be … Continued

One of those days: What to do when it sucks to be you
22 Feb 2015

One of those days: What to do when it sucks to be you

by judy | posted in: About You | 0

“Judy…there’s water pouring into the basement!!” “I don’t know who to call, so I called you!” She was panicking. That was the frantic call I got last Thursday morning from Jenn, our store manager. The very same Thursday I decided … Continued

Child Development Stages: Keep your little one on track without pushing
22 Feb 2015

Child Development Stages: Keep your little one on track without pushing

by judy | posted in: About Your Kids | 0

He was crying bitterly. He was stomping his feet. He would not take off his boots. Or his jacket. He wanted to go home right now. He was being….very 3, and he did not want to be there. This morning … Continued

Take the Valentine’s Day Fidelity Challenge
14 Feb 2015

Take the Valentine’s Day Fidelity Challenge

by judy | posted in: About You | 0

No, this is not one of those silly online surveys. I’m not asking you to own up to any secret crushes, or fantasies of pre-commitment days. Nor am I asking you to start worrying about your partner’s time away from … Continued

A toilet is a toilet is a toilet. Unless you’re a toddler.
2 Feb 2015

A toilet is a toilet is a toilet. Unless you’re a toddler.

by judy | posted in: About Your Kids | 0

“He never sits still”, the Mom said sounding exhausted. “ I’m constantly running after him.” “And,” I said. “You never get to sit down.” “Right” she said. “I thought it would get easier once he started walking. But I’m more … Continued

Read to Me! How to teach your kid to be a good reader
2 Feb 2015

Read to Me! How to teach your kid to be a good reader

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

Can you imagine living in a society where reading wasn’t allowed?Throughout history, dictators and religious extremists have used any means possible to prevent children, especially girls, from going to school and learning to read.To those extremists etc, preventing citizens from … Continued

Wild: the journey and adventure of being a mom
15 Jan 2015

Wild: the journey and adventure of being a mom

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your World | 0

Reese Witherspoon as Cheryl Strayed in Wild. Photo by Anne Marie Fox/Fox Searchlight Pictures A few days ago I went to see the Academy Award nominated movie “Wild” on the big screen. “Wild” tells the real life story of Cheryl … Continued

Is sleep training right for your baby?
9 Jan 2015

Is sleep training right for your baby?

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

Are you a good baby? No, that’s not a typo. It’s a real question. And you probably don’t get asked it very much. I was listening to a continuing education webinar today, about Infant Sleep Training Programs, and the instructor … Continued

When things don’t go according to plan, sing Jingle Bells
16 Dec 2014

When things don’t go according to plan, sing Jingle Bells

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

It was truly breathtaking! The Nutcracker performance was being shown on the Big Screen at the Capitol Theatre to an audience packed with families. Kids of all ages were there. Everyone was captivated and enchanted. And then…the computerized projector froze. … Continued

It’s Christmas. More is not better.
7 Dec 2014

It’s Christmas. More is not better.

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

“This is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen,” she said. Her eyes were wide with awe. She reached up to gently touch the sparkling silver wings that fanned out from the dress. She turned to her Mother and pleaded, … Continued

Parenting styles: what kind of government do you run in your house?
25 Nov 2014

Parenting styles: what kind of government do you run in your house?

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

Yesterday was election Day in British Columbia. There was a huge turnout here in Nelson because it was a hotly contested mayoral race. (Nearly 60% turnout of eligible voters in a town of 10,000) It was really busy when I … Continued

Teaching Your Children How to Stop Violence Against Women
23 Nov 2014

Teaching Your Children How to Stop Violence Against Women

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids, About Your World | 0

I was going to write about dressing babies for the cold this week. But got sidetracked by all the news about sexual and domestic violence. The topic, of course, is not new. But the fact that it is being brought … Continued

It’s raining. It’s pouring. 8 indoor active play ideas for kids that aren’t boring
9 Nov 2014

It’s raining. It’s pouring. 8 indoor active play ideas for kids that aren’t boring

by judy | posted in: About Your Kids | 0

Let’s face it. It’s November. Summer is most definitely over. With the cold chilly rains and snowfalls to come, getting outside is more of a challenge. There are fewer daylight hours and we’re all inside together for long stretches of … Continued

How to make your 5yr old more powerful than a politician
2 Nov 2014

How to make your 5yr old more powerful than a politician

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your World | 0

This is not supposed to happen in Canada.The radio program I was listening to was interrupted to report a shooting in our nation’s capital. “An unarmed soldier was shot and killed while standing guard at the Ottawa Cenotaph honouring our … Continued

Tickle Trunk Trauma – Costume Hints for a Stress Free Halloween
20 Oct 2014

Tickle Trunk Trauma – Costume Hints for a Stress Free Halloween

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

When my daughter was five she was a flower girl, and wore a gorgeous red satin and lace dress, which she loved. For Halloween that year she decided she wanted to be a Flamenco Dancer and wear that dress. Great… … Continued

Teaching your kids to say “thank you”
12 Oct 2014

Teaching your kids to say “thank you”

by judy | posted in: About You, About Your Kids | 0

As a parent, you are always encouraging your kids to say “thank you.” You want them to be polite and respectful of other people and to show appreciation. When someone gives them something or does something nice for your kids, you always … Continued

What mothers should know after their baby is born
9 Oct 2014

What mothers should know after their baby is born

by judy | posted in: About You | 0

It was one of those moments that stuck with me forever. I was a new mom and I was visiting a mom friend who always seemed to be on top of it. I told her how much I admired her … Continued

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